Did you decide to learn anything?
We did. All people have decided to learn something at a point of life.
I decided to learn many things. And I also gave up many things.
Many times I thought the cause of giving up was about the motivation or discipline matter.
However, in reality it's not exactly. I felt motivated and I'm discipline, but I can't be persistent.
After analyzing the problem, I found it's the matter of the direction.
How to start? What is the first step? What preparations have to do? What are the costs? What resources are needed? And continuous question marks.
We need a guidance. We need a handbook to follow. We need to know the steps.
That's why many people don't start doing what they want to do. Simply because they don't know how to start.
Recently, I had a conversation with my girlfriend's father, and he told me about one secret of the successful people. This secret reshaped and rewired my mindset about success.
What he told me became the seed to grow this article.
Here's what he had told me. Firstly, let me tell you a little bit background of the story.
My girlfriend's family is doing a manufactory business that makes ice stones and wholesale to customers, but her big brother isn't passionate about the business.
One day, I had a chance to carry my girlfriend's father to back home from his factory. Along the journey, I asked something about his business, and obviously he's very excited to say about his business.
I skip the nitty gritty here. The thing he told me that matter is about my girlfriend's brother. Let us call him 'brother' in this article.
Her father said the brother is not passionate about the business. However, my opinion is not the same, he was hardworking.
The brother's job scope is sending the ice stones to customers by a lorry. And I saw he was done what he has to do, nothing is wrong. He was not lazy, and he did correctly. So I don't really understand why her father said so.
And then he told me, "No, he is not passionate.". He continued say, "If he is passionate, he should come to the factory to learn how to operate it."
I was stunned when I heard this. Her father continued, "If you are passionate, you won't just send ice stones to customers and do nothing else. You will eagerly want to learn more, know more and do more."
I said, "But no one is teaching him." Because her father will not be free when is at the factory, he must be busy for the operation.
Her father replied, "No one is teaching doesn't mean you can't learn anything. If you want to learn, why don't you come to the factory and see how I operate it?"
When I heard this, it was like my head got a hit by a hammer or a slap on my face.
If no one is teaching you, why don't you learn yourself?
No one said you can't secretly learn what he/she is doing. No one will have the free time to teach you everything step-by-step like teaching a baby how to walk. No one will be responsible to your own success.
If you want something bad enough, you will do anything you should do to obtain it. Even if you don't know HOW TO START.
There's an old saying said, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear."
If you want something bad enough, you will find there are many teachers will appear at the right time for you to learn.
That's why her father said the brother didn't like the business, otherwise he will go to learn factory stuff even if no one is going to teach him. Not to mention that he can learn from his father by seeing the actions.
The world has changed.
Twenty years ago, Internet was not invented. All information can only obtain from books or paper forms. Elder people don't like us have the ability to search something by simply tying it in the Google and immediately get the answer.
We new generation people have an advantage over them. We can obtain information in a short time. Many things we don't have to figure out ourselves, many things we want to learn have been transformed into courses so we can learn things fast.
You see, my friend.
There's simply no excuse for us to stop getting what we badly want.
If you want to know how to do something, you can either search articles from Google, or see videos on YouTube, or purchase a course, or attend an online seminar and the list goes and goes on.
When you are ready to learn, you will find the teacher. For examples, I learned how to build and design the website myself. I learned how to be successful with women. I learn how to build my body. I learn how to build a lifestyle I always wanted.
Some people think they just don't have anything that they want badly.
They don't have a goal. That's the problem.
If you don't have a destination, you don't know the direction.
You will be like a ship on the ocean without a captain.
You have to know where to go. You have to know who you want to be. You have to know what you want to get. You have to know your mission in life. You have to own a goal that motivates you.
When you know what you want, you will know what your duty is.
For example, when you decided to be a fit guy, you know you need to lift weights, eat healthy, fast, push through the plateau, maximize the mental focus, inject emotional intensity and have fun.
In other words, you want to be mindful. And fulfillment will come along when you take actions.
Like just mentioned, if you don't know how to do, you can search about it, there are plenty of websites teaching people things like mine or website like WikiHow. Your duty is including find out the solutions to every problem that you are going to face.
So once you know the methods after researching, you will construct your actions and your behaviors will be controlled. This is how to have discipline in doing something.
When you are ready to learn anything, you will find the teacher.