Impress Her On First Date With These 7 First Date Conversation Tips
First dates are always uneasy business. One of the hardest parts of a date is to know what to talk about so the conversation can go smoothly and help you to impress her.
In a first date conversation, the first few minutes are the most important minutes. During those first few minutes, your date would judge you base on what you have said to form an opinion about you.
If you know how to handle the first date conversation, you can impress your date in order that she feels comfort around you and would be more willing to having a second date with you. In short, the way how you handle the conversation can make or break your first date. Many guys may not even realize it, they just don't know the importance of the first date conversation.
The success of first dating is not only depend on the conversation, but also the way you behave and the way you treat her on the date. I've written two articles about 20 first date tips and 40 dating rules respectively, you should read them before reading this article. Use those tips and rules to polish yourself up for better conversation, and then continue reading this article to create natural conversations that will make you a smoother talker and charmer instantly.
7 first date conversation tips that will impress her
How and what to say on the first date is really a challenging mission that every man will meet. Many guys ruin their first date due to they have no idea what to say, so they act unnatural and this gives a bad impression to their date. Here are 7 first date conversation tips that I exactly used on my first date with a girl and now she is my girlfriend. :)
1. Common area of interests
To make a conversation goes smoothly, one of the surefire ways is you want to talk about your common area of interests. Before attending a date, you can do some researches about her from her Facebook profile or her friends. The examples of topic you can research are - What's her favorite movie? What kind of stuff she always shared on her Facebook? What kind of thing that she seems very interested?
People keep quiet when the conversation isn't something that they are familiar with. But they keep talking when the topic is something they know a lot. So it's worth to do some researches to make the conversation more interesting.
2. Smiles always and be funny
Smiles always. On the first date, both of you don't know each other very much yet. If you smile first, she will feel you are friendly and become more relaxed on the date. Then she will be more likely to share stories with you.
You want to be funny too. In my previous article, I explained how humor can attract women, the most powerful way to express your humor is mixing it with arrogant/cocky attitude. Since you smile at the first place, she feels relaxed when being with you, and you always make her laugh (not in way of being a clown), that will create chemistry in her (sexual and emotional attraction) so she will be attracted to you instantly.
3. Personal experience
Personal experience is the easiest things to say on a first date, simply because, they come from your personal experience. When you say something from your own experience, you know what you are talking about, so you will be confident with your talking.
But that doesn't mean you can tell her every personal experience. Tell her some DHV-filled experience and avoid wussy one. Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling you to tell stories for bragging yourself, it's one mistake that many men make. But you want to give her good impression of yourself, so don't tell inferior experience, and never tell a fake story. Be honest.
4. Interesting or funny memories
This one is similar to the tip above. You tell her things that you've experienced with. The difference is personal experience is something that allows you to impress her and demonstrates high value to her. Whereas funny memories don't have intention to impress her. You just tell these funny moments to make her laugh and make her feel you are humorous.
5. Should never feel like a job interview
This one is one pitfall that many guys meet on their first date conversation. They don't make women feel connection so women don't open their heart to chat freely with them. Hence, the conversation will look like a job interview. Sometimes this one is on guys side, guys don't build up their inner strength so they feel anxious around women and this leads to unable turning and expanding questions to the conversation.
Job interview is very boring, this will break your first date and women probably never want to have dates with you anymore.
If you reveal too much about yourself your mysterious will backfire and lost the attraction that you've established with her. These topics are the ones you should avoid on a first date - your past relationships and your future relationship plans.
7. Ask smart questions
Asking questions is unavoidable on a first date. However, many people ask questions that are too general to answer and hard to lead to conversations. You want to ask smart questions that lead to conversations.
There are some rules of asking questions. 1) You should not throw one question after another. 2) Don't ask questions frequently, you should at least keep questions ratio at 1:1. 3) Don't ask boring questions.
Follow these rules of asking questions you could have a good conversation with your date.
I've compiled 28 questions that you could ask her on the first date from online resources. I asked 7 or 8 questions exactly from this list on my first date and now she is my girlfriend.
I just worked my way around with these simple questions, and they lead to conversations that enough for me to talk about, for the whole day. Of course, I've talked something else like what just mentioned above - common interests, personal experience and funny memories. I use this list as ice breakers when the conversation starts to run dry.
Here we go.
28 first date questions that really work
What do you usually like to drink?
Have you come here before? / Do you come here often?
What kind of music do you listen to?
What kind of movies do you like watching?
What do you do for fun?
What’s your favorite vacation destination?
If you could travel the world, which are the five places you’d never miss?
If you ruled the world, what would you change?
Which parent are you closer to?
Who’s the person in your own life you admire most?
Do you have a childhood memory that makes you smile every time you think of it?
Do you like spontaneity or do you like routine?
So what’s your current passion in life?
How did your job/hobby/interest start?
What are you most proud of?
What book or movie do you know backwards and forwards?
How was your day?
Do you think your name suits you? What would be better? What about my name?
What’s your least favorite word?
If a close friend told you that they had been abducted by aliens last night, would you believe them?
If you could take a vacation anywhere, where would you go?
What movies have made you cry, if any?
Do you have any weird crushes on famous people that don’t make sense to you? - Be prepared to share yours, too. Even if it’s super embarrassing.
What's the boldest thing you've ever done?
Are you a cat or a dog person? - A recentstudyfound that "dog people" were more energetic and outgoing, while "cat people" were more introverted and sensitive.
What do you do when you’re having a tough day?
What do you do on weekends?
If you won a lottery, how would you spend your millions?
Don't try to memorize all the questions, and don't waste your time on searching more questions around the Internet, these 28 questions should serve you more than enough. You don't have to ask them all, ask only when the conversation starts to run dry.
Prepare yourself with the first date tips and the dating rules, and follow these 7 first date conversation tips, you will have an amazing date ever in your life.
About the author
Rio Yee is the Founder of WealthyLoveLife and is super passionate about helping people change their mind and take action to improve your important areas in life such as dating & relationships, personal finance and productivity.