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Not everyone has the courage to live dangerously.
Perhaps you were taught by parents, teachers, and societal influences to avoid being too bold or too brave. You were schooled to be 'reasonable' with people's expectations: "It's too dangerous, you must don't take unnecessary risks and draw attention to yourself in public."
You were taught the value of fitting in. You should follow traditions, don't talk to strangers, stay safe, and avoid causing an uproar with your dreams.
This can cause you to live reactively. Instead of setting your own goals, making plans to achieve them, and going after them with guts, you play it safe and small.
You think that you have no option. You keep working at a stable job even though it doesn't fulfill you. You remain in an unsatisfied relationship, even though you don't feel passionate anymore and dead inside.
You think you should go with the motions, and don't rock the boat. You hope that someday your currents of life will move towards a favorable direction.
Over time, you come to believe what they taught you. You accept the condition of average, scared, unhappy and limited - You believe you have no option.
This mindset restricts the size of opportunities you can reach, even though we are all capable of so much more than we think. Due to this limiting belief most people never scratch the surface of what they're capable of.
In fact, the gains (things you want) can be made quickly, but most people never attempt to gain new skills. They don't think about getting good at things. They don't think about wanting to learn more, do more and be more. The enormous benefits are waiting for those who actually follow through.
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. - Ambrose Redmoon
People lost their courage to live dangerously, to chase what they want, they like to stay in their comfort zone.
Becoming good at things is becoming a losing art - The art of ability to face imaginary fears and reclaim the powerful life that you wanted the most.
For examples: Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. Fear of going broke. Fear of being alone. Fear of humiliation. Fear of public speaking. Fear of being ostracized by family and friends. Fear of physical discomfort. Fear of regret. Fear of success.
People who lack courage would always avoid facing a fear, they feel relieved after escaped it, but this behavior actually will make you even more likely to avoid facing the fear in the future.
Then you rationalize your behavior: lack of resources, lack of money, lack of time, lack of friends, lack of mentors, lack of skills, lack of experience, and the list goes on.
Five years... ten years... twenty years pass, and you realize that your life hasn't changed all that much. You've settled down.
In your mind, a tiny voice recalls you that this isn't the life you wanted to live. It wants you have more, much more.
It wants you to become far wealthier, to have an outstanding relationship, to get your body in peak physical condition, to learn new skills, to travel the world, to have lots of wonderful friends, to help people in need, to make a meaningful difference.
The voice tells you that settling into what you currently have for the rest of your life is never what you want.
The voice tells you that it is because you aren't doing what you really ought to be doing with your life.
You are afraid. You want to escape and refuse to listen. But the voice is always there reminding you that you are a loser, nagging you until you die with full of regrets.
How do you respond to this voice? What do you do when confronted by the gut feeling that something just isn't right in your life? How do you escape from facing your life? Maybe watching TV, listening to music, working long hours at an unfulfilling job, or consuming alcohol and caffeine and sugar.
Whenever you do this, you lower your consciousness. You react to life instead of proactively going after your goals. Because in deep inside you believe you have no option. You believe that your goals are no longer possible or practical for you.
Since everyone around you are in the same boat and seems to be OK with it, you convince yourself that such kind of life might not so bad after all.
Has the art of ability to face imaginary fears and reclaim the powerful life become lost on today’s instant gratification society? Is it easier or harder to become good at things?
When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
It's normal there are some things you are afraid to face, but don't let fear paralyze you.
Real courage is a mental skill, not an emotional one. Courageous people are still afraid, but they don't let the fear paralyze them. They will do things that should do even though they are scared. Soldiers are still afraid, but they don't escape the war, they fight to protect their families and country because of the love.
You don't escape what you should do, you overcome the fears and take action even if you expect to fail. You know this is the only way you won't make regret in your life. You use your intelligence, logic, and independent will to face your fears.
However, it's easier said than done. No one born to become successful, the key is to start.
In the journey of going after your goals, there are two important rules you MUST know.
The reality is that great performance is less about being gifted, but more the inevitable result of practice consistently and relentlessly for many years.
Courage is the same. It's a learned mental skill that you must condition, just like weight training. You won't lift 300 pounds for the first time, you start from 10 pounds, 50 pounds, 100 pounds...and gradually move to 300 pounds. So don't think you can be courageous instantly.
You can reduce or eliminate your fear with acquiring knowledge and skill within the domain of your fear. It's a slow but steady process, you improve a little every time, at last you become good at it.
In the beginning, it's very difficult and many people give up midway, but after practice a while the momentum sets in and your performance become better and better until you become an expert.
Success is an inevitable result of practice many years with utter consistency and relentlessness.
The way in which you practice is much more important than how much you practice. People are likely to give up midway due to they do things in the wrong way. They plateau quickly, get frustrated and give up because they are lost with their direction.
A large part of your fear is due to the unknown. If you know the rules and how to play the game, you will be confident naturally. You can start by reading a book or two on the subject, this helps you to break through your fear so you are able to take action.
If you want to become good at things, you would need to learn the insights that would elevate you to extraordinary, new skills that would deliver fortunes of prosperity, mastery, excitement and beauty into your lives, process and specific sequence of action steps that guarantee your success.
You have to put in the efforts to actually become successful.
Fear is not your enemy. It is a compass pointing you to the areas where you need to grow. So when you encounter a new fear within yourself, celebrate it as an opportunity for growth, just as you would celebrate reaching a new personal best with strength training. Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. - Dale Carnegie
You may not be able to see how you can transform your life currently, and that's fine. Just begin it anyway, from one area to another area, without any concern how it would change your life, just start the process of improving the life area that you always want to change.
Your passion of changing your life will eventually overwhelm your fear. Patiently wait for clarity; you will eventually find a way to make it work. Remember the first rule: Change is a gradual process.
No matter how difficult it may seem, make the choice to live consciously and dangerously.
Don't avoid facing what you need to face. Don't refuse to listen what your tiny voice tells you. Don't die without embracing the daring adventure your life is meant to be. All setbacks and difficulties are milestones along the path of a life lived courageously and dangerously, carving a deeper space within you to be filled with an abundance of joy, happiness, and fulfillment.
Summon your courage to follow your dreams. Feel the fear and expect the setbacks, difficulties, suffers, struggles and sadness along the journey, this is an undefeatable strength.